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Personality traits: Temper!

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12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:38:39 PM EST (GMT-5)
Do you lose your temper readily, IRL, or are you as cool as a cucumber?

What are some of the things that push your buttons?

Is losing your temper healthy, or is it more beneficial to keep it under control?

TELL ME ABOUT YOUR RAGE, YT! WHEN/WHY/WITH WHOM DID YOU LAST LOSE IT?

And finally, what gets you over a fit of anger?

12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:41:31 PM EST (GMT-5)
As for me, generally, I can deal with the big, anger-making things.

When I lose my rag, it tends to be a build-up of loads of tiny little things that break the camel's back.

I shout a lot and want to break things. It runs its course when I realise how ridiculous I'm being.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:44:31 PM EST (GMT-5)
Used to be easy to fly off the handle for me but I think the anti depressants tone them down

There are times though when I am talking to the husband and he says "what", it sets me off

There are times when he is mad about something and is yelling his head off, I lose it and scream back

But that rarely happens

I can't think of any other examples

12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:44:37 PM EST (GMT-5)
I've been told I'm the most patient person. I can be, it takes a lot to get me to a breaking point. In fact, I've never gotten in a rage with someone, it's always been a private breakdown of anger. I've gotten angry at people, sure, but never in a rage.
Arrogance and such can push my buttons.
What helps me get over anger is music.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:46:25 PM EST (GMT-5)
I used to have pretty ugly anger issues a few years ago. Sometimes it got to the point of violence. I don't know what happened, but I'm not like that anymore. Maybe maturity?

But I still have rage moments (they just don't come frequently). I still feel like I have the lingering Boston Irish Catholic thing in me. I will cuss someone out at any instance of disrespect or cruelty.

My last incident of violence was that night someone peed on my window. I was livid. About a month ago, I punched a hole in my wall. Looking back, I can't even remember why.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:48:47 PM EST (GMT-5)
I am usually pretty calm. It takes a lot to really tick me off.

When I do blow up, it is usually an accumulation of things building up. By that time, the poor person that "broke the camel's back" gets the brunt of everything I have been holding in.

It is not the healthiest way to deal with things, I am sure.

The last time I lost it was a few months ago. My husband and I had been fighting about stupid sh*t and I went out to sit in the car while he finished shopping. As I was sitting in the car some guy pushed a bunch of shopping carts into my car. He pushed them so hard the car actually moved. When he walked away laughing and no apology, I flew out of my car and started screaming and yelling, I called him every name in the book. I really wanted to pummel him with my fists, but some how I managed to just yell.

Normally, I would not have reacted that way.

12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:49:33 PM EST (GMT-5)
1. Somewhere in between. I lose it on occasion, but not too often.

2. People suggesting that my use of this website is why I can't get a job because employers read my journals, people ordering me around, people thinking my version of stories is something I just made up/believe delusionally.

Healthier to lose it sometimes

I last lost it when I found out fatass/jose/awp had gotten ahold of my security questions for YT and emailed them to others. we were going to get lunch but I just told him I was leaving

Getting over it = time, or taking a walk


12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:50:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
I was just so stressed and angry at the moment, I struck out at the easiest target.

Screaming at people, or physical exertion are the only ways I know to release it. Obviously, yelling is the wrong way to deal with it.


12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:50:56 PM EST (GMT-5)
Actually, Rac - I have to say, casual incivility really gets me. I seethe when people spit on the street, for example.

Generally, my anger is completely out of proportion to any kind of offense committed - I'm a little scared to hold it in, in case I release a nuclear winter on someone. I try to let it go little but often - like a safety valve.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:51:23 PM EST (GMT-5)
Oops. I just want to add that I never bottle anything inside of me. If an issue comes up, I will always deal with it right then. If not, then ASAP. No matter how big or how small, I always believe in communicating. And there is always a way to go about it. Even if something little comes up, I can usually find a way to subtly solve it. It feels wonderful to never walk around with any hidden ill will.

With that being said, maybe I see where my past rage comes from.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:52:57 PM EST (GMT-5)
EW EW EW you just nailed one of the things that push my buttons. At my birthday party the other night, a friend was smoking a pipe and he kept spitting like a liter of spit, right near our feet. I was so grossed out that I said something.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:54:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
Shutter and Tric - What you've said really interests me for this reason: what is the healthy way to deal with one's temper? Is it better to work it off somehow than to tell the person that has triggered it that they have annoyed you?

Do you feel better for NOT letting your temper go?
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:54:55 PM EST (GMT-5)
I never lose my temper hardly ever. Instead after a bunch of small things, I usually take it internally and lose it emotionally. Like panic attacks, etc. No screaming and throwing things.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:56:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
I usually pretty good with anger and am pretty calm in most situations. However, two things set me off. Someone spitting at/on me with make me punch them in the face (this has happened, well, I elbowed his chin and knocked him out...he deserved it and would have attacked me) and when someone says sh*t to my friends. I can cope with people jeering at me, I'm used to it. But if someone says horrible stuff to my close friends I tend to get involved when I shouldn't.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:56:58 PM EST (GMT-5)
I get irritated quickly. For example, even in my dream a few minutes ago, I started busting up some girl (that's actually in my class in real life and was in my dream too) because I was rinsing this sparkly stuff outta my hair in the sink and she started bitching at me about it.
In REAL life though, I'm just about the most frank, honest mean person ever if you get on my nerves.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:57:51 PM EST (GMT-5)
I have to say, if there's an action not involving physical contact that is designed to offend and enrage someone more than spitting at someone, I don't know what it is.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:58:26 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 10/5/09 - 5:54:14 PM chips2001 wrote:
Shutter and Tric - What you've said really interests me for this reason: what is the healthy way to deal with one's temper? Is it better to work it off somehow than to tell the person that has triggered it that they have annoyed you? Do you feel better for NOT letting your temper go?


I just think if you don't lose it and bottle it up, it comes out in other ways

And sometimes, anger can inspire great works of art or help you finish something you need to do

I think it's ideal to write your anger out into a sh*tty story or poem (if you're me)
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 5:59:12 PM EST (GMT-5)
I am sure it would be better to work things out with the person right away. For some reason, I am too stubborn to admit it when a person has wronged me in some way.

I also hate to feel out of control, so maybe by telling someone they hurt me, I feel like I am giving them to much power over my emotions.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:03:03 PM EST (GMT-5)
Balloon - yeah. That terrifies me, tbh. I have such a bad temper that if I internalised it completely, I think I'd do myself serious damage.

Shutter, I completely feel you about loss of control. That's my major issue with my temper. I don't like doing things that I KNOW I'll have to apologise for afterwards.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:06:19 PM EST (GMT-5)
It takes a lot to get me upset. But when I do all I do is yell and say really harsh things.

The things that really piss me off are when people insult myself, my family or my friends. How typical. And when people are idiots. That pisses me off.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:07:08 PM EST (GMT-5)
I have anger issues. My sister nearly ripped out the tongue on one of my black converse, so I kicked her for it
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:07:15 PM EST (GMT-5)
I have had to make my share of apologies. My mouth works faster than my mind when I am mad.

It is also embarrassing, I always feel like "the crazy lady" when all is said and done. I also cry when I am mad, which makes me even madder.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:08:49 PM EST (GMT-5)
I usually think things through as I'm going along, quickly but for surely making sure I won't have to be apalogetic for what I've done/said.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:11:03 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't lose my temper any more. The only time I get a bit angry is when the dog chases the cat. I just yell at him, he cowers, and then it's forgotten.
12 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Monday 10/5/09 - 6:20:12 PM EST (GMT-5)
You are in your journal though. A wee bit.

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